Family mediation near me: how to start safely
Find an authorised mediator
Use the Family Mediation Council route or a provider that can confirm the mediator is authorised to conduct a MIAM. Ask whether sessions are online, separate or shuttle-based, whether legal aid is available and what the initial fee is. Costs vary; do not treat an advert's headline price as a national tariff.
What happens at a MIAM
The mediator hears each person's account, explains mediation and other non-court options, screens for domestic abuse and child-safety risk, and considers whether mediation is appropriate. If you later apply for a relevant order, the mediator deals with the confirmation or exemption section required by the court process.
The voucher and the limits
GOV.UK says a family mediation voucher can contribute up to £500 in eligible child-related disputes. It is not a guarantee of free mediation, and the mediator applies the scheme. Check the current eligibility and funding position before budgeting.
Mediation is voluntary beyond the MIAM. It is not suitable for every case, particularly where there is coercion, intimidation, urgent risk or an inability to negotiate safely. A mediator should discuss alternatives and exemptions.
A useful first email
Give only the minimum information needed to make contact: names, broad issue, children's ages, urgency, safety concerns, preferred format and whether a court deadline exists. Do not send a full bundle or sensitive material to an unverified provider.
Questions people ask
How much do family mediators cost?
Fees are set by providers and vary. Ask for the MIAM fee, session rate, cancellation terms and any legal-aid position. GOV.UK's voucher scheme may contribute up to £500 in eligible child-related disputes.
How do I get free family mediation?
Ask the mediator whether legal aid applies and whether the voucher scheme is available. The voucher is administered by the mediator and does not mean every part of the process is free.
What should I not say during mediation?
Do not threaten, intimidate or use mediation to conceal a safety risk. Explain the practical issue and the child's needs honestly. If you cannot participate safely, tell the mediator privately and ask about alternatives.
Official sources to check
- GOV.UK: child arrangements and mediation
- Justice UK: MIAM Practice Direction 3A
- GOV.UK: family mediation voucher scheme
- Family Mediation Council: find a mediator
Links were checked while this page was prepared. Legislation, fees and court guidance can change; use the linked source for the current position.
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